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9/18/2019 CS
Rye, NH,
I'm saddened to hear of the passing of Dr, Choras. I was his patient first as an in -patient back when I was 16. I saw him off and on until his retirement, and I into my 50's. This lengthy span in itself, might not appear to reflect favorably upon his success but he was terrific. He was a solid, stable figure in my life that I knew so long that while my therapist, in a sense he felt like family knowing him from my teenage years until 50's. I learned his son gave him his office recliner as a gift, that he liked to collect medical-ish antiques and was devastated to lose his beloved wife, that his son was at some point into cars." As much as I loved my parents, there were times I secretly wished your (his)family would adopt me. I was 16 then. He was still smoking a pipe occasionally -Borkum riff??? He had a wonderful sense of humor and tried not to be too amused by my dark humor but couldn't help but laugh. He was an amazing person and therapist. The lengthy patient-hood was needed in that there was someone with whom I felt like I could pick up with where we left off, almost like and old friend after at times not having seen him for several years? It was wonderful to have a therapist who saw me as a human, was real, genuine and never made me feel "like a real piece of work." He knew my life story and in spending so much time over the years, he could converse with me and while always professional he'd share small tidbits of his life and always real and genuine. He did not talk to me as a crazy patient.." and was never condescending. I could not help but feel I knew him, his personality and nature. I have continued to think of him off on since his retirement, thought of and missed him. Oddly a few months ago I thought of him and wondered and hoped he was well, I was sorely tempted to send him a note. Tonight he came up in mind again and I have thought of him more than usual the past few months. I wondered and finally checked, wondering -did some part of me feel his spirit soar. I saw the date and I can't say but he kept coming into my thoughts often, near the time of his passing. Tonight I checked the paper hoping not to see his name. But I did and a apart of me sensed it. I don't know you Peter and Leslie but was lucky to know your Dad. I remember you losing your Mom and feeling sad for all of you. I felt I knew your Dad without knowing much detail but enough to know that he spoke of you two with a silent pride. I am so sorry for your loss , relieved to learn he went peacefully. Before your Mom passed, he'd occasionally have me phone him at home to set up an appointment. Again, it felt good to know he wasn't above giving me your home number and that he must not of thought me too crazy. My thoughts are with you and I share in your sadness. I know first hand how hard it is to lose ones parents and don't know that things ever feel completely the same. I'm sure he will live on in your thoughts and memories. Goodbye and thank you -dear Dr. Choras, My condolences to his family who he clearly loved and adored. I came from NH to see him for years.